“ Anxiety ??? “
I have 3 kids and they are so different. My middle child who had learning disabilities loved going to school, even if it was just to see his friends. He was and still is my easy going child. The other 2 were always anxious when school started. My oldest cried at orientation day because he didn’t want us to leave! (Smile ) Of course it was always harder on me…lol. I would cry all the way home! Are you feeling my pain? But eventually they get over it and we are the ones that perseverate. If we are anxious we will pass it on to our littles. So your goal to focus on is to address their fears and be as supportive as possible. Start creating a routine in the middle of August so the first day isn’t a shock!
“So….how do you find a balance ?”
Never say, “What’s wrong honey?”
Or “Don’t worry, it’ll be ok.”
You’re their parents…instill confidence in them…not just when school starts…always…every day…On the playground, going to soccer or another sporting event, try to introduce them to new playmates, Make friends with other moms or dads so the children will already know some classmates. I read on another site that .“Any opportunity for exposure, for repetition, for mastery is going to help them.”
My daughter and my youngest went off to Kindergarten and 1st grade without any issues. Then came grade 2. She went the 1st day with no issues, but wouldn’t go back the 2nd day. The waterworks started…you’d have thought I was sending her to reform school! Luckily the gym teacher was a personal friend of ours and would meet us at the door for over a week and literally pull her off of us. It was heart breaking, but certainly helped in the long run. Her child’s teacher said she bounced back once she was in the classroom and joined in with the rest of the kids with a smile…meanwhile I was still in tears. Did I tell you I was in tears for the rest of the day! ? Anxiety about school sometimes takes the form of headaches and stomachaches too…my daughter tried them all. The school nurse told me keeping her home was a big mistake! That I was reinforcing her anxieties. Of course if you as a parent think your child really is sick then that’s a different story. Or if you think they are being bullied which these days is becoming more of an issue. Then you need to talk to the teacher because the longer a child misses school, the harder it is to get back in the routine.
10 Ways to Help Your Child Manage Anxiety
~ Remove stressors you think are hindering
~ Help them learn how to tolerate others
~ Always be positive
~ Always listen
~ Never ask your child a question about what they are afraid of
~ Let them see how you cope with situations
~ Always make them a healthy breakfast before school
~ Put a note in their lunchbox telling them how special they are.
~ Maybe you can bring them grocery shopping to pick out special treats
Always try to be understanding. It doesn’t do anyone any good if we are all upset. I always started a few weeks before school started to ease into our new schedules. I was a teacher so I understood more than others what children go through whenever they start any new situation.
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